A Chastity Question

This has been in my post ideas folder since 2017. It comes from the blog A Dominant Wife.

Dear Miss Jay,

I have been married for three years and have “led” our marriage since our honeymoon when I first took my husband over my knee on the second night. My husband is very obedient, trustworthy and understands that, in our marriage, his sexuality is entirely subordinate to mine. I am not a big fan of penetrative sex so he has only been allowed to enter me twice since we married. I allow him to masturbate, in the bathroom, once a month which seems to me to be more than enough.

Recently I have noticed he is becoming erect and, worse, “dribbling” and even having nocturnal emissions. I am quite sure this has effected his behavior despite knowing he derives no pleasure from these lapses. They still represent unconscious disobedience and I would like to nip this in the bud. The whole point of having a chaste husband is to ensure that what pleasure he gets depends completely on my assessment of his performance in his marital duties.

I read your blog and know that you keep your husband in a cock cage. I have thought of putting my husband in such a device but I wondered if the fact his cock is in a cage might not be making too much of his male member. Drawing attention as it were. What are your thoughts?

A Young Wife

I am just drop-jawed. So two people that have little interest in PIV sex marry one another. Of course, the letter might be a hoax.

https://dominant-wife.blogspot.com/2017/03/a-chastity-question.html

I Got Triggered

I was on a blog that I should have not been reading. This was the opening image.

You have no idea how such images piss me off. I just don’t care for submissive people, male or female. Submission is a weakness to me.

Yeah, I know this what a lot of men would relish. It’s also the stereotype women have of men who want to be spanked and that’s my prime objection. More than once women have avoided playing with me because they feared I would ask them to spank me. Being a male switch is tantamount to being ostracized, while female switches are prized.

If I never saw another image like this it would fine with me. I only like pictures that show both enjoying themselves – tears and expressions of anguish do not depict enjoyment to me.

Where’s my safe space?

Hiding An Erection

This blog was started to show that not all men desire what is depicted in the drawing. I will always defend that.

Ronnie recently posted this drawing. It is exactly what most male bottoms want to see – a female dominant relationship. I have zero objection to her posting it. I strongly object to the comments made about it.
While the drawing is a total turnoff for me and about 20% of men who like a hot bottom without even a whiff of punishment or discipline. We detest being put in the same box as those who do.
Some men only want to be spanked for real-life offenses and they experience pain, not sexual excitement.
Hermione, by her choice of moniker seems to want us to think she is a little brighter than the unwashed, was the first to make the uninformed claim that men with female dominants get a hard-on after a spanking. Actually, this group of men admits that they seldom get more than even semi-rigid, before or after a spanking and certainly not during. That contrasts with the much smaller group I am in who enjoy an erection from the get-go.
I probably would not have got my dander up if Hermione, Ella, etc. had any real-world experience spanking men. Always best to keep your opinions to yourself when you don’t have jack to back them up.

Hermione said…

What a cute apron! It’s probably hiding his erection:)

Hugs,
Hermione

21 OCTOBER 2019 AT 14:00

Ella said…

Hermione’s comment was spot on! Thanks for the pic, Ronnie.

Hugs Across the Pond,
Ella

Aimless Rambling said…

I agree that Hermione’s comment is probably spot on.

Femdom Captions


Some people are submissive. I had to deal with them in the work world and it was PIA since the subs needed special handling and care. I suppose it’s like hair color, nothing they can do about it.

I love captioned pictures. Well, I love to make fun of them anyway, especially the femdom ones. You know the ones that have women saying things some men wish women would say to them, but don’t.

The caption ruined the first image. You know how I relish a girdle. The girdle, tight sweater and wide belt date the picture to a time in my youth.

Who knew masturbation was a problem? Orgasm denial is much desired by some men.

I would have a long-term relationship with her. About a half-second after she said that.


Is this a kind of gender swap?

Cat Suits

There seems to be a universal outfit, no a uniform, for dominatrixes. A cat suit with boots and a whip.
It’s  not turn on for me, but it must be desired by a lot of men. We all like spanking, but we sure are a diverse group.


Caps are optional 


 Perhaps shorts are a summer wear option

Dildo’s are another option



Femdom

I get tickled at some of the captioned femdom pictures I see.

femdom - wtf

She says “for me…and for us”. Just what exactly did she get out of not having sex for a month? Two weeks without sex with me and she would history, no matter how good she looks.

femdom - pleated skirt

Here is a caption that may be wishful to some. It’s ludicrous to me. However, her looks are captivating, don’t you think? Eyeballs, check. Hair, check. Legs, check. Attractive attire and jewlery, check. The pleated skirt makes the picture complete for me. OK, I would gladly fetch my paddle for her.