Covid and Us

Covid has not affected us in any significant way. We did not travel in 2020, but that was due to health issues, not Covid. We don’t have much in the way of social life in our new town. Covid cut that to zero for us. I lost my weekly bridge and her women’s group went to Zoom. 

This year, we spent five months on the road getting as far north and west as Montana. Then the heat dome engulfed us. We spent two weeks in an RV park just so we could have AC. 111 is hot. We then hopped scotched south to New Mexico pausing on every mountain to to escape the heat.

Some places were masking, others not. It really did not bother us. Most of our human contact was at grocery stores. We stayed with friends in several places. We did meet a new spanker and enjoyed playing with her. We found that Dems were more worried about Covid, but then they are more worried about everything.

We are not much on eating out except when the offering is something special. We found several New Mexican style restaurants in southern Colorado and northern NM. They were all only using half of their tables, so they were not crowded. Two were open-air as they allowed the air to flow through the in-door seated area. Probably normal for them.

We seek out of the way places to camp so the multitudes of RV travelers did not bother us much.  

Sapiosexual

I am reading  Unrequited Infatuations: A Memoir by Stevie Van Zandt. He used the word sapiosexual. I had no idea what it meant so I Googled it.

Sapiosexual – a person finding intelligence sexually attractive or arousing.

Below that definition, Google listed several other related terms. Some, new to me.

A person who identifies as biromantic can be romantically attracted to multiple genders. Biromantic asexuals seek romantic, but not sexual, relationships with people of more than one gender identity.

When a person is asexual, they are not sexually attracted to anyone. 

The prefix “poly” means many, and polysexual individuals are attracted to people of multiple genders. People who identify as polysexual often use that word because it suggests a greater variety of sexual orientations than traditional gender binaries of male and female, or hetero and homosexual.

The four genders are masculine, feminine, neuter and common.

What are some different gender identities?

Agender

A person who is agender does not identify with any particular gender, or they may have no gender at all.

Other terms for this may include:

  • neutral gender
  • null-gender
  • genderless
  • neutrois

Androgyne

A person who identifies as androgyne has a gender that is either both masculine and feminine or between masculine and feminine.

Bigender

A person who identifies as bigender has two genders.

People who are bigender often display cultural masculine and feminine roles.

Butch

Women, especially lesbians, tend to use this term to describe the way they express masculinity, or what society defines as masculinity.

However, the LGBTQIA Resource Center state that “butch” can also be a gender identity in itself.

Cisgender

A cisgender person identifies with the sex that they were assigned at birth.

For example, a cisgender woman is someone who still identifies with the sex — female, in this case — a doctor assigned them at birth.

Gender expansive

The LGBTQIA Resource Center define gender expansive as an “umbrella term used for individuals who broaden their own culture’s commonly held definitions of gender, including expectations for its expression, identities, roles, and/or other perceived gender norms.”

Those who are gender expansive include people who are transgender and people whose gender broadens the surrounding society’s notion of what gender is.

Genderfluid

A person who identifies as genderfluid has a gender identity and presentation that shifts between, or shifts outside of, society’s expectations of gender.

Gender outlaw

A person who identifies as a gender outlaw refuses to allow society’s definition of “male” or “female” to define them.

Genderqueer

A person who identifies as genderqueer has a gender identity or expression that is not the same as society’s expectations for their assigned sex or assumed gender.

Genderqueer can also refer to a person who identifies outside of how society defines gender or someone who identifies with a combination of genders.

Masculine of center

A person who uses this term is usually a lesbian or a trans person who leans more toward masculine performances and experiences of gender.

Nonbinary

A person who identifies as nonbinary does not experience gender within the gender binary.

People who are nonbinary may also experience overlap with different gender expressions, such as being gender non-conforming.

Omnigender

A person who identifies as omnigender experiences and possesses all genders.

Polygender and pangender

People who identify as polygender or pangender experience and display parts of multiple genders.

Transgender

This is an umbrella term that encompasses all people who experience and identify with a different gender than that which their assigned sex at birth would suggest.

Although most people think of trans men and trans women when hearing the word transgender, this term also encompasses people who identify as a gender other than man or woman, including nonbinary and genderfluid.

Trans

Trans is a more inclusive term that covers those who identify as nonbinary and those who are genderless, according to the LGBTQIA Resource Center.

Two Spirit

Two Spirit is an umbrella term that encompasses different sexualities and genders in Indigenous Native American communities.

There are many different definitions of Two Spirit, and Indigenous Native American people may or may not use this term to describe their experiences and feelings of masculinity and femininity.

This is a cultural term that is reserved for those who identify as an Indigenous Native American.

And throw this in the mix

Incel

a member of an online community of young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile toward women and men who are sexually active.

Johnny Be Angry

This post is about a time and a culture that no longer exists. A time before rap, hip-hop, random murders, etc. A time when entertainers greeted the audience with Ladies and Gentlemen. I got the idea from an aside remark I made to one of our readers. It’s about Bacall.

My first glimpse of Bacall was of her standing with her hands on her hips waiting for someone to help her in the Men’s department of a department store where I was working while going to college. Ah, a feisty one I thought. A challenge. I will have fun with her. And so I did. Well, the attraction could have been her attitude or it might have been her bubble butt. [She no longer has the bubble butt, but still can still go from zero to attitude in less than a second.]

We dated and I was smitten. She was a passionate lover. We were designed to be together. She is smarter than I am. I like that. I need bailing out at times.

It was a different time. It was a time when Men were Men and women were glad of it. As Archie and Edith sang “Those were the Days”

Boy, the way Glenn Miller played 
songs that made the hit parade
Guys like me we had it made

I learned that Bacall thought men should be as expressed in the song Johnny Be Angry.

Johnny, I said we were through
Just to see what you would do
You stood there and hung your head
Made me wish that I were dead

Oh, Johnny get angry, Johnny get mad
Give me the biggest lecture I ever had
I want a brave man, I want a cave man
Johnny, show me that you care, really care for me

Every girl wants someone who
She can always look up to
You know I love you, of course
Let me know that you’re the boss

So I am a Cave Man.

 

What Are You So Afraid Of?

Many spankos live in fear of being discovered. Some even resist saying the word spank and substitute TTWD. It must be a burden to carry around so much guilt about what they relish doing or would relish if they could come out of their shell.

Spanking is not illegal. In fact, if you told your vanilla friends that you liked spanking they would say You call that a kink? Spanking is mainstream. You don’t think so? Browse Vanilla Spanking and see how many plays have spanking scenes.

This is from a guy who is on the extreme end of paranoia about being found out. On a spanking forum, his name is E and his icon is Alfred E. Neuman.

… you will find that I am steadfastly anonymous, and private about my spanking fetish in all walks of life. My wife and I are licensed professionals, and letting the cat out of the bag concerning this thing we do could and probably would spell professional doom. This aspect of my life has to remain strictly compartmentalized and in the closet. Also, my wife is too private to participate on the forum, even anonymously. But I mention her incessantly because she is the most important aspect of my spanko marriage. I wish I could get her to participate, but it just is not going to happen.

Licensed huh? Bacall was licensed. I had a security clearance for years. We met well over 200 people who were like us. Never had any fears.

Adm note: We will be home in 2 or so weeks. I will be able to get back to posting more frequently and with more pictures for you lecherous sorts.

Spanking Blogs Are In The Rear View Mirror

Like you, I have noted that for the last two or three years spanking blogs are in decline. Many are no longer active. Some are dim images of their former selves. Even the ones that were most popular now have little content. I mean milking the same thing for years gets a bit tiresome.

Take the one called Incessantly Spanked. She has not been spanked in two years. Her blog is now about what color shoes she bought or the like. I pick this one out because when she was being spanked, it was by a fellow employee in the company parking lot – their tree house – during lunch.

One of the most popular F/M blogs went toes up and now I am seeing comments that would have been posted there, being submitted to OBB. Sorry, guys, but we are not about you being spanked by your landlord, boss, MIL, etc.

A Letter From John

We are always pleased to hear from people that like OBB. It has always been a small niche blog – but it has taken off in the last 9 months. Why? I have no clue. Perhaps only because it is one of the few surviving blogs with more than pictures.

What most attracts you to OBB? Do you identify with the way we approach spanking?

Cheers, Bogey

Hi Bogey,

It’s always hard to answer the real reason something attracted you to a product, service, or even friend because it’s an unconscious process. But, here’s my first impression.

You have a sense of style and taste that’s missing from most blogs of any sort. You are curating your photos instead of just throwing up the first thing you find. (I hate that word, but it fits.). Your writing adds to the pictures. And, you have a point of view. I can get an impression of who you are.

I also think it’s about what’s not there. Your blog never offends me. I worked for a company where we were catering to upper-middle-class people and one of the guidelines our boss gave us was. “Class is what we do not do, not what we do.”. I never see anything on your blog that causes me to be offended. Nearly every other blog dealing with anything related to spanking is so offensive and irritating that I just can’t look at it.

I guess you also present spanking in a way that makes it seem natural and acceptable, which it is for me. You are very clear about who you are and what you like and how it is sexual for you. You don’t try to justify it but you’ve provided lots of interesting information about history and practices.

hope that was helpful. I’ll let you know if I think of anything else.

Best regards,

In a second note he continued:

I’ve been thinking about this more because I was once considered an expert in consumer behavior. I developed an unusual approach that uses very advanced psychology involving one on one interviews with consumers followed by statistically valid testing. That doesn’t mean I know everything, of course, and I am guessing here because I have an interview with everyone. Only myself. But I find your question intriguing.

You show your interest in spanking is sexual but you keep it within the bounds of reasonably good taste, in my opinion. You also provide content. Anybody can just generate pictures. But yours have a theme and you generally have intelligent commentary that accomplishes them, even if it’s brief.

I’ve been very frustrated at the lack of content in spanking material. But there’s more than that. There once were classy places where we could discuss spanking. There was true value. But as far as I can tell, they are all gone. Fet Is now so offensive that I can’t look at it anymore. Even Jillian Kamen has deteriorated in her content.

Every time I try to make a post somewhere about spanking it quickly deteriorates into a bunch of trashy stuff and often includes a bunch of gay solicitations for partners. I believe spanking operates on even a spiritual level and a good spanking does incredible things for me And resets my whole neurology. Of course, I also find it very sexual. But it’s more than that.

Roger Daltry once complained about Pete Townsend’s writing for the Who that it involved spiritual and psychological themes. He said, “rock ‘n’ roll is about sex. Pete thinks it can be more than that but it’s about sex.”

So, of course spanking is about sex. But more than that for me.

If you think of the magazine era, you may remember that they had high quality pictures combined with writing. Playboy comes to mind. That magazine broke the barrier in showing attractive nude women. But it also combined insightful text and interesting articles. Hugh Hefner knew what his audience wanted and understood their aspirations. He also understood that they had criticism from externally generated forces (spouses often) and guilt. So, he put in enough intellectual contact for one to defend their purchase of the magazine. I also found myself reading some of the articles.

Penthouse took it a step further in starting to talk about spanking and other things that were forbidden to discuss. Those of us interested in spanking felt like we were alone, despite the fact that many of us played spanking games with playmates as children. I also loved (and love) enemas. I thought I was some kind of freak because of it and there it was in plain text validated in a magazine. no apologies.

Maybe more than you wanted to hear!

I hope your trip is going well.

John

Strict Julie Readers Are Loyal

Vegas is wide open

Now I have posted some eye candy for the ladies. Bacall sure likes it.

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I recently posted a list of what I thought were some half-decent spanking clips. Well, those that had some appeal to me. I asked readers to submit their own favs. I got zero. Thanks a lot, folks

Strict Julie recently posted several clips. None of them turned my crank, but she got dozens of suggested clips. I guess her readers, mostly male subbies, are more loyal than OBB readers.

Julie shows her domme side saying things like I can whip a man like that. I enjoy doing it. Even writing that makes me gush a little.

That makes me cringe. I have never wanted to be whipped. I never wanted to be dominated or humiliated. But, I know I am in the minority for not giving a whit about such.

I have been reading Strick Julie for some time, usually dropped jawed. It might well be the most read spanking blog. I read it mostly drop-jawed thinking this cannot be true. For years she pushed every male sub fantasy. Then she turned sub. Now it’s a mix. I often thought this can not be a woman writing this, it has to be a man. But, the words seemed to be from a female POV.  I wonder how many people are involved in writing Strick Julie?

Recently she fantasized about being on a Spanish Horse. I thought why not go all in and add weights to the ankles as they did in the Spanish Inquisition?

In going through my drafts I found I had already written about this blog. It must have really bothered me. There are all sorts of critics. I guess I am a blog critic.

There are fantasies I would not participate in.  There are fantasies I don’t even care to know that exist in people’s minds. Lupus Pictures depicted such things.

I read a blog last week, that chilled me. Before I could control my impulses I commented that the author had crossed my line. My line. She had gone to a place I would never care to go. Yes, she has the right to go there. I think I have the right to say that is too far for me.

A lot of “play” is Please don’t throw me in that briar patch. I guess that is consensual non-consensual play. Would the ultimate fantasy be the ultimate punishment? Would death by guillotine be consensual non-consensual play?

She is one bright woman. I have enjoyed reading her political posts which her readers savage her for writing. Their vitriol rolls off her. Good for her.

That’s all I have for you today.

Pulling Her Panties Down

I have been a member of a spanking forum for over a decade. I have not participated in any meaningful way in the last three years. The members I knew well burned out and have gone on and the new members have different views than the original group did. It is now overly populated by men that have slim chances of spanking anyone but are consumed by the prospect.

In the beginning, the women of the forum did not hesitate to post pictures of themselves. Those days are long gone. Now the pictures of are pro models that circulate on spanking blogs, Twitter, etc.

The most common comment these men make on a picture of a woman being spanked, it that they would make her bottom much redder. The second place comment is that her panties need to come down for the spanking to be effective. Both comments stem from viewing spankings as a punishment. OBB readers well know that we don’t spank for any reason other than it turns us on. So when any element of punishment is introduced we may not be interested.

That said, women expect their panties to come down. It’s not a big deal for them. Men seem to think taking panties down is like getting to third base in HS.

I learned in HS, I could take her panties down to continue a spanking without more than a feeble protest. It was natural. However, taking her panties down while making out was normally met with resistance.

In my days of spanking women, other than Bacall, I tried to figure which would best work on her mind. My custom was to have her stand in front of me while I decided if I would take her panties down or I would have her do it. It’s all part of the delicious anticipation and excitement of a spanking.

My Fav Scene In Secretary

Girls Just Want To Have Fun