Hermonie does not allow me to comment on her blog. No doubt because I have carped about her continually posting stories of nonconsensual spanking of minors.
So I thought I would steal her question of the week and give my own response as the comments were quite unlike our practices.
When Does The Spanker Know When Enough Is Enough?
1) I stop spanking Bacall when she is just this side of having an orgasm. Then I give her one.
2) I stop spanking Bacall when I can tell she is just not going to have an orgasm this time. Then we cuddle for a while.
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Our Bottoms Burn 
Spanking is pure foreplay to me, like caressing and kissing each other. I don’t think I could climax during it, and most certainly would not ever want to. I want to finish inside her.
So how does she know when to stop? IDK is the short answer. At first she was commenting how red my bottom was. Upon checking, which was about 10 minutes post spanking it appeared just medium to light pink to me. In recent conversation, I told her she does not need to worry about hurting or injuring me, our implements are light and glutes are tough. Since then, she has pushed the spanking intensity to harder and faster. I’d have preferred it the same intensity but extend the session. But she wants it done quickly and as I have told her, “when I am over your knee, you are in charge, do it your way and give extra spanks if I try to complain or tell you what to do”. The last session, Saturday, I would say was the first time she took my bottom to true red. I hated the rapid fire, but it was so good at the same time. She is progressing and I love her for embracing my needs.
And again, I have no idea what possesses her to choose when to stop. I’m afraid if I ask, it would cause her to rethink and revert to those awful short and inadequate spankings.
“Spanking is pure foreplay to me, like caressing and kissing each other. I don’t think I could climax during it, and most certainly would not ever want to. I want to finish inside her”
Personal preference. Some men and women can and do orgasm just from percussion.
“But she wants it done quickly and as I have told her, “when I am over your knee, you are in charge, do it your way and give extra spanks if I try to complain or tell you what to do”.
You guys need to have a LOT more discussion. You have the common problem of wanting to be submissive and taking what you get even when it’s not what you want.
I feel that since we are both switches, we know exactly how a given paddle feels and after all these years we have talked enough to know what the other likes.
Perhaps you can locate some articles written by women that describe how to spank a man. Of course, the best course would be for her to talk to another woman.
Thanks for commenting even if she does not know when to stop. NO one else bothered to ring in.