How we came to spanking

An OBB reader posted:
I have never met anyone, knowingly, that shared my passion for spanking.
Neither have I sought out like-minded folks to meet up with. I do wonder, though, if I ever will at some stage.

That gave me the impetus for this post – a tell-all.

How we came to spanking…that starts with my background before I met Bacall. I think I spanked most of the girls I dated. I never planned to spank them, it came naturally because of something they did. I would ask them to cease whatever annoying behavior they were doing. Of course, the little darlings relished that game. So I would hoist their skirts and spank them. They took it in good fun. But, it was common that the same behavior occurred the next date with the same result. I was being played, but I was too dim to understand it. I did not see spanking as sexual. But, afterward, they would often be sitting on my lap with their panties down being comforted and still impish. The only way I can see this is that since their panties were down for a “good reason” it was OK to advance to some heavy petting. Always likes that term. So spanking was a back door to sex. Bad pun.

I was 19 when spanking became sexual for me. Now I not only consciously wanted to spank I wanted to be spanked. That was two firsts for me. The trigger for this event was a picture like this one of two women spanking each other. Why a depiction of F/F spanking caused my sudden interest in F/M spanking will always be a mystery to me.

Since I was now actively thinking about spanking my dates, it was no longer spontaneous. And I think less enjoyable for both of us. I had a lot to learn.
When I started dating Bacall, she naturally felt my palm and after awhile I got the nerve to tell her I wanted to be paddled. She took to it like a duck to water.
I was still really stupid about spanking her. I thought the only way to do it was paddling her like I liked being paddled. That was too painful for her. Still is most of the time.
Years pass, I was usually the one getting paddled. I just could not imagine another way to spank other than with a paddle and hard.
The internet dawned and we found that we were not alone in enjoying spanking. One thing led to another and soon we were in a group of spankers. At first, only 20 people, it quickly grew to over 100 souls. We got together several times a year for long weekends.
It was at the first party that things changed for us. I was spanking a gal in an adjoining room and Bacall came in and told me to come and see this. I said, “In a minute, I am little busy right now”. But, she was so excited she persisted to encourage me to drop what I was doing and come to see her discovery. It was a leather paddle.
We bought several leather paddles and that changed the whole dynamic for us. She was now paddled as often, if not more so, than me.
More years went by and just as suddenly she decided she liked wood paddles better. Not the same ones as I prefer, but still darn stingy ones. Isn’t that right, Ronnie? [At her request, I made her one just like Bacall’s]
This photo was taken during her transition from leather to wood. From left to right, a metal ruler – her idea. Pussy flogger. Two leather toys and her first wood paddle.

So to our reader, what I am saying is that there are people just like you out there. Why are we hiding from each other? You will not find many women that enjoy spanking men, but there are lots of women who want to be spanked.

Questions? Comments?

5 thoughts on “How we came to spanking”

  1. The wooden one you made will never be a favourite of mine. I never thought a small paddle like that would sting so much. P likes it.


  2. So true that women will control you without you knowing. I too would spank most of my dates, one such would really try and get me to spank her in a variety of places. It was good foreplay but took awhile to get to home plate. When it did happen I was spanking her for being a bitch, had her over my lap her dress pulled up her panties around her knees and when I finished she looked at me, took off her clothes and smiled at me rubbing her bottom. I undressed quickly and decided to insure she was ready and gave her such a spanking that she danced around the room afterwards until I pointed to the bedroom. It was wonderful, but she said not so hard and I said maybe.

  3. Have to differ with you a bit on your final comments about not too many women wanting to spank men. I’ve run into more of them then vice versa either on a one to one basis or in a group. I might also add that being spanked by a group of women is a most enjoyable as well as uncomfortable experience.

  4. My experience is that 8/9 women in a hundred spank men and not a one I have met enjoyed spanking more than being spanked.

    As to being spanked by a group, if two is group, it is indeed fun. They make up the “rules” as they go along. Very cooperative with each other.

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