I read “Self / Discipline: How Spanking Changed My Life” by Andrew Cameron. Ronnie posted about this book last month. It’s about his travels in spanking. From being gay to straight. From taking canings from men to spanking women. I skipped over the gay and caning sections. The next sections made me think about what spanking means to me.
I have spanked quite a few women over the years. Only a few are memorable to me. In the others, we were going through the motions. We were never able to connect with our minds. There were always promising in the notes and phone calls, but in real life, some were a letdown.
So I learned that spanking without passion, without chemistry is really boring. Second, that spanking can never be a substitute for a relationship.
“By the end of our session, her lovely boyish bottom was bright red. We moved to the bedroom. We slept in the same bed but nothing sexual followed. The mood was not one of sexual passion but of shared intimacy and trust. This was, for me, much more powerful. It felt like we’d been two friends sharing in something, not two lovers or strangers indulging in a horny act.”
That brings some especially pleasant memories to mind. I will share one with you. We were cuddling after I had paddled her. She told me in detail about a paddling she got as a teen from a teacher. Her Mother was present and had her bend bare bottom over a chair for some really hard licks. I had not been easy on her, but I decided she was telling me this to ramp things up a few notches. I asked her if we should play it out. Of course, she wanted to. I used a formidable paddle full force on her. She was in a trance at the end. We cuddled for a long time and shared more thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, that can be as good as sex for both.
“A very spanking-related adjective. Someone being spanked is rarely thinking of themselves as ‘bad’, but naughty. And the idea of getting a childish punishment is, in itself, naughty rather than ‘rude’ or ‘horny’ or some other epithet. On any list of spanking words, “naughty” would be placed high.”