I read “Self / Discipline: How Spanking Changed My Life” by Andrew Cameron. Ronnie posted about this book last month. It’s about his travels in spanking. From being gay to straight. From taking canings from men to spanking women. I skipped over the gay and caning sections. The next sections made me think about what spanking means to me.
I have spanked quite a few women over the years. Only a few are memorable to me. In the others, we were going through the motions. We were never able to connect with our minds. There were always promising in the notes and phone calls, but in real life, some were a letdown.
So I learned that spanking without passion, without chemistry is really boring. Second, that spanking can never be a substitute for a relationship.
“By the end of our session, her lovely boyish bottom was bright red. We moved to the bedroom. We slept in the same bed but nothing sexual followed. The mood was not one of sexual passion but of shared intimacy and trust. This was, for me, much more powerful. It felt like we’d been two friends sharing in something, not two lovers or strangers indulging in a horny act.”
That brings some especially pleasant memories to mind. I will share one with you. We were cuddling after I had paddled her. She told me in detail about a paddling she got as a teen from a teacher. Her Mother was present and had her bend bare bottom over a chair for some really hard licks. I had not been easy on her, but I decided she was telling me this to ramp things up a few notches. I asked her if we should play it out. Of course, she wanted to. I used a formidable paddle full force on her. She was in a trance at the end. We cuddled for a long time and shared more thoughts and feelings. Sometimes, that can be as good as sex for both.
“A very spanking-related adjective. Someone being spanked is rarely thinking of themselves as ‘bad’, but naughty. And the idea of getting a childish punishment is, in itself, naughty rather than ‘rude’ or ‘horny’ or some other epithet. On any list of spanking words, “naughty” would be placed high.”
It’s been a really busy two weeks for us. We have been packing the RV and doing needed maintenance items. Spanking has not been on our radar. This morning I finished a project and could see daylight so I told Bacall we could go for lunch at our fav Canjun place after she picked up a script from the doctor. So we showered and got ready to go. She thought it would be a grand idea to give me some pops with our myrtle wood paddle.
I was not keen on the idea but dutifully bent over and she gave me four stingers. I was keener afterwards! I returned the favor and she remarked several times that she could still feel the sting.
It put us in the mood and we made plans for an extended session tomorrow.
We are headed to Red Rock Country. I doubt I will take a picture of Bacall sunbathing, but I am sure we will both be bent over red rocks here and there.
PS, we know exactly where this rock formation is.
Not at all about spanking today. I think the blog will drift to things that interest me in addition to spanking. Not sure about maintaining a publication schedule. Something like We are on a break.
One of Led Zepplin’s classics is Black Dog.
I spent many a night in the den with lights down listening to it in a haze of ganja.
The fourth line makes it a spanking song.
Hey, hey mama said the way you move
Gon’ make you sweat, gon’ make you groove
Ah ah child way ya shake that thing
Gon’ make you burn, gon’ make you sting
Hey, hey baby when you walk that way
Watch your honey drip, I can’t keep away
Did you know that Black Dog refers to an older dog that would come to see a friend near their studio? He would wear himself out with her and they would carry him home.
Have you heard Black Dog done by Plant and Emmylou? Captivating to us. It will never be recorded as Jimmy Page is very protective of all Led Zepplin music.
More music? How about this cover of All About That Bass by Postmodern Jukebox.
The blond, Morgan James, has the moves.
As one who likes to be paddled by women, I learned long ago to be damn careful of mentioning my desire for fear of being shunned. I know that other readers have kept their thoughts to themselves to avoid being thought weird. I know it’s partially a cultural thing, but it freaking annoys me.
I am the farthest thing from being a wuss that you can imagine. I have only invited women that I trust to paddle me. Most have accepted with enthusiasm. There has never been any exchange of power. I don’t seek to give it and they don’t seek to take it. It would not be pretty if they did.
Last week I wanted to access a website so I just typed in Hermon… up popped a list of suggestions and I highlighted one and it brought me to Hermione’s Brunch
from December of 2015. As I wipe my history every few weeks, why one in 2015 was suggested I have no idea, but it prompted this post. The brunch topic was a question suggested by me.
“The topic I would like to see discussed in depth is why are women so reluctant to spank men.
I appreciate Hermonie posing the question, but some of the responses really ticked me off, with Dragon Rose leading the pack.
Dragon’s Rose said…
Dragon doesn’t want to be spanked and the thought of spanking another man is just gross. So the idea of spanking a man is not an issue I even think about. It feels too much like role reversal to me.
Just gross huh? Perhaps Eweeee could have been used. Made me feel so good. I think Dragon’s Rose is over the top provincial, submissive and narrow-minded.
Other responses that failed to address the question but expressed their personal POV:
I have on occasion spanked Rick, but in a more playful way. It just doesn’t sit totally right. I am definitely the spankee.
I have given Master some playful swats…but any more than that…I cannot imagine…for me, it is my nature to be submissive. In general, I think it is partially a cultural thing….
Ni Na said…
Hi Hermione, if it was just the occasional swat on a hot bum, I am sure many women like doing that. Spanking men in general? I think that there are many dominant women, not only dominant men, so I’d imagine them spanking their submissive men too.
I couldn’t spank hubby, that would not feel right and good for me at all. I think none of us could see any positive in that; the other way round is what we want and do. 🙂
No, No, No. That could never feel right. Me being spanked by Sam is what I have craved my whole life long. If even once I ever spanked him, the roles would be forever changed. And not for the better.
I have tried to explain it before. Sam being dominant is like breathing pure oxygen. It is natural and necessary. Sometimes he doubts a decision he makes. I tell him honestly that he cannot make a mistake.
Now the reverse of the above.
This morning, I was looking at some pictures of men being paddled and I saw a comment from a woman I know as a casual cyber friend. She and I share a preference for wood paddles and taking licks bent over. She wrote under the picture.
It’s nice to see the boys getting the paddle on the bare! It isn’t like they don’t deserve spankings for behavior and picking on us girls!
She did not direct her comment to anyone in particular, but I took it as her OK that she is cool with the desire that some men like to be paddled. And that acceptance comes from a woman who is a bottom. That’s a whole lot different from English Rose’s Eweee! The album this photo is in is all of men being paddled. I doubt many women would even enter the album.Thanks sweetie!
Many blogs will have a Valentine theme today. Passing here.
I am wondering if we should put OBB to sleep after 10 years and 1400 posts? Even with the Blogger comment problems, there is precious little interaction. Stats show a steady readership, but a dearth of comments in 2018.
What’s going on folks? I am not about to start posting nothing but pictures of butts. If that’s your thing, there are a thousand Tumblr sites.
I tripped over a YouTube clip on spanking – a girl in the street interview in Goa India. I was surprised at how candid the women were about spanking. I was also a little surprised that it was a thing in India since most spanko’s are “westerners’.
I looked up Goa and share with you a bit about it.
Goa is a coastal state in India. It is India’s smallest state by area and the fourth smallest by population. Goa has the highest GDP per capita among all Indian states, that is two and a half times that of the country. It was ranked the ‘best-placed State’ by the “Eleventh Finance Commission” for its infrastructure and ranked on top for the ‘best quality of life’ in India by the National Commission on Population. It has a tropical monsoon climate. The temps are mainly in the low 80’s.
Pint-sized Goa is more than beaches and trance parties. A kaleidoscopic blend of Indian and Portuguese cultures, sweetened with sun, sea, sand, seafood and spirituality, there’s nowhere in India quite like it. … Beaches, sun and Vindaloo.
Sounds great to me.
Here’s the clip.
And then I found this equally candid one from the UK. Spanking is definitely going more mainstream every day.
Someone did the numbers and found that the tax cut will reduce revenue and require more borrowing. Investors are concerned about all the additional borrowing and the likelihood of higher inflation, which is why the interest rates on U.S. government bonds hit the highest level since 2014. That, in turn, partly drove the worst sell-off in the stock market in years.
I am of the opinion that this tax cut, like its predecessors, will result in increased revenue. So I am, at this point, not concerned about the tax cut or the sell-off. I may wrong about this.
It seems there are a lot of male jerks.
Newton’s first law states that every object will remain at rest unless compelled to change its state by the action of an external force. That has been where sexual harassment has been. Women have tolerated it. Something upset the state of rest and now we are moving ever faster to – well I don’t know where we are headed.
Newton’s third law is: For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. There is a backlash, unintended consequences, to #MeToo. Consider this headline:
Female professionals set back 20 years
Consider what’s happening in the capital of Florida. Female staffers and lobbyists have found “many male legislators will no longer meet with them privately,” reported The Miami Herald. “I had a senator say, ‘I need my aide here in the room because I need a chaperone,’ ” lobbyist Jennifer Green told the paper. “I said, ‘Senator, why do you need a chaperone? . . . Do you feel uncomfortable around me?’ ‘Well,’ he said, ‘anyone can say anything with the door shut.’ ”
This makes it classic Catch 22. Suffer in silence or be locked out.
This is so helpful for #MeToo
California Assemblywoman Cristina Garcia — whose high-profile advocacy of the #MeToo movement earned her national media notice — is herself the subject of a state legislative investigation in the wake of a report that she sexually harassed and groped a former legislative staffer.
The lobbyist, who represents a major industry association, said that Garcia appeared to have been drinking heavily at a fundraiser hosted by Governor Jerry Brown for state Senator Josh Newman at the de Veres bar in Sacramento. He said he was heading out the door in part to avoid the assemblywoman — who had been increasingly “flirtatious” and had called him on a few occasions before for late night drinks which he repeatedly declined.
She spotted him and said,“Where are you going?” the lobbyist said.
“She came back and was whispering real close and I could smell the booze and see she was pretty far gone,’’ he said. “She looked at me for a second and said, “I’ve set a goal for myself to fuck you.”
At that point, Garcia “stepped in front of me and reaches out and is grabbing for my crotch,’’ he said. That was “the line in the sand,” according to the lobbyist, and he stopped her. “I was four inches from her, eyeball to eyeball — and I said, ‘That ain’t gonna happen.’”
I was reading an article about millennials watching old James Bond movies. There was a picture of Sean Connery, who was the best James Bond by far, and these stupid people think Sean Connery’s along with Roger Moore’s character were rapists. Just looking at Sean Connery’s picture with his shirt off makes me hot.
Actually, I had my first spontaneous orgasm when he appeared on the screen in his tux and said his name was “Bond, James Bond”. Wow, that really hit me and I was sitting in a theatre fully clothed!
Do the millennials not know what rape is?? Later I read that he was a spanker. I would gladly go over his knee for a spanking. He is still sexy to me. Also as the saying goes, I would trip him and beat him to the floor. [Bogey, this is why celebrities have security]
Now back to our everyday life. Saturday I decided that there just wasn’t enough spankings going on in our house. Bogey says it’s too cold. So I went into the den and told him that I would just spank myself and use the vibrator. I started spanking, but he was watching and told me I wasn’t doing it correctly. I said that my wrist hurt from all of the scrubbing I had been doing. He decided that maybe it wasn’t so cold and he would help me. What a great guy!
There are damn few spanking sites of interest to us anymore. Guess everyone has thrown in the towel. New Tumblr sites pop up showing the same bottoms as you will find on the other 2,214 sites.
There are even fewer F/M sites that I find appealing. This is one that has decent high-quality photographs. I would love to bend over for her.
Both are suitably attired, no fetish wear, no tats
Nice paddle. Pink, not blood red cheeks. I like the bent over position myself.
They are selling clips if you are interested.