Spanking By The Numbers

Referring again to How Men Like To Be Spanked I was quite disappointed in the number of comments. I had never seen “stats” on the subject before. I thought it was interesting. Or maybe I am the last to understand?

Perhaps the latter, Bonnie had this graphic years ago. I should have paid more attention to it.


My tally of the survey responses showed that about 1/3 of men are 3’s. This was a big surprise to me. It sure explains why punishment stories are so popular.

Bacall and I are solid 4’s.

What’s your number?

18 thoughts on “Spanking By The Numbers”

  1. #3, I cannot explain it, but given a punishment spanking is what I have always wanted. I was in my late 20's when I met the woman I married. During dating she mentioned why I was having trouble staying with a person. She said my attitude and childish ways and she was going to address that. I laughed when she said a spanking, even though that what I wanted, I was not laughing when she finished, I danced around and had to face the wall. Today when a spanking is coming I do as told and have been seen afterwards by a couple of people facing the wall. Just something that I desire and need, and our marriage is strong. Jack

  2. My question is, do you find something about #3 that is hard to understand. My husband is five years younger, we have a wonderful marriage, sex life is good. Dating him I learned he needed direction, his spending, his attitude, his mother even wonder why I would date him. I corned him one morning stepping out of the shower, the previous night he outdid himself. He listen and smiled and I just said a good sound spanking might be what you need, he laughed. It did not take much but soon he was across my lap as I sat on the bed and his bare bottom was feeling the sting of my hand. When he realized I was not joking, I told him to stand up, I scolded him like a child, I then took my hairbrush and he struggled some but the hairbrush soon got his attention. His mother not knowing he is spanked sees the difference in him. He admits it has helped, at times I think he wants to be spanked. I know he hates to face the wall afterwards, begs me not to, especially if he is naked. He also after getting caught masturbating must relieve himself of his erection, the spanking is more effective. So our life is normal, our marriage is strong and the sex life is good. Spankings are not foreplay, no sex afterwards, and for me he sure acts like a little boy when being spanked, and I so enjoy viewing his red bottom afterwards. Jane

  3. I'd have to say my wife and I are in the 4 category at this stage in our lives. Years ago we probably would have been in the 5 group.
    It's an interesting graphic indeed.

  4. Thanks for responding Jack. You are in the one third of men that want a punishment spanking. And you are honest about it. I can’t explain why a paddling arouses me so much anymore that you can fathom why punishment is so appealing. I think it’s important to stress we are not all the same.

    …when I met the woman I married. During dating she mentioned why I was having trouble staying with a person. She said my attitude and childish ways and she was going to address that. I laughed when she said a spanking, even though that what I wanted…

    Perhaps your wife is like Jane? Anyway, you are fortunate to have found what you need in a partner. There are a lot of men and women who have not.

  5. My question is, do you find something about #3 that is hard to understand.
    Yes Jane, I do. It’s is more difficult for me to understand than #4.

    My husband is five years younger, we have a wonderful marriage, sex life is good. Dating him I learned he needed direction, his spending, his attitude, his mother even wonder why I would date him.

    I am as perplexed as his Mother on why you dated him.

    His mother not knowing he is spanked sees the difference in him. He admits it has helped, at times I think he wants to be spanked.

    So you are saying that spanking has improved his behavior to some extent, but not enough to avoid getting spanked. I agree with you he wants to be spanked and uses his behavior to earn a spanking.

    I so enjoy viewing his red bottom afterwards. Jane

    Is that reason you spank him. Perhaps you were looking for a man to spank when you dated him? If so, it does seem that you have a mutually enjoyable marriage.

  6. I do enjoy seeing his cute bottom red, but find I like the control. He will admit he needs the spankings. He will also admit it has improved his sexual drive. He has tried to get me to spank him with others present, especially my best friend, I'm not leaning in that direction. I know he will find that totally not what he wants.

  7. …it has improved his sexual drive.
    This leads me to think he is not a pure 3, perhaps a 2, 5 or 6? What does he think his number is?
    Spanked with witness is a popular desire. Would it alter your relation with your best friend? Why do you think he would not like it?

  8. 6,7. It would not alter my relationship with my best friend. If I bring up the subject he will say later, that it would be private. I've asked him why a public spanking when you want it to be private. He said it would be private, just me, my bf. Try to understand that reasoning.

  9. Becky, in a F/f relationship, would say 2. Joyce my partner and I met in college, it was a spring break visit to her mother's, she is divorced, that I found my spanking desire. We both were told house rules and of course we had to break them. My girlfriend knew she would be given a spanking and I watched in shock at her age. Her jeans, panties were around her ankles and over her mother lap. I so wanted to be over that lap that I stepped out of my jeans and stood in my panties. Her mother looked at me and said get those panties off young lady and I did. Oh the spanking was wonderful, it hurt, I danced around afterwards. I told Joyce how I found I enjoyed the spanking and she smiled. It was a couple of months later, I did something stupid and in the dorm room Joyce told me to drop my jeans and I did so and she pulled down my panties and the spanking was wonderful, but like her mother, it did hurt. It is the norm now, and have been spanked in front of her mother, at a hotel and only once taken to the restroom and my skirt pulled up, my panties lowered and given a spanking. Two ladies were present and to my shock one handed a hairbrush to my friend and boy did I squirm at the table while we ate.

  10. It makes sense to my male mind. It's private, it's not in the mall.
    I always enjoyed being spanked by two women. They get quite imaginative and it becomes a lot of fun.
    If you don't think it would create any problems, go for it.

  11. I told my bf and she is gamed for anything. My husband could not wait, and got more than he bargained for. He had to be naked, she scolded him, and brought along a nice large hairbrush. Well he danced really good afterwards and he was still erect, what followed he did not wish to do. I made him masturbate or get another spanking. He masturbated for us, it was great, and oh he got another spanking, from me, and boy did he squirm. Asked him later if that is what he wanted, yes/no he said, no meaning the masturbation, I just smiled and said get use to it.

  12. We are 4's also, and sex has followed every spanking – spanking is one of our favorite forms of foreplay. We have been spanking each other on a fairly regular basis for about 40 years.

    Out of all of those spankings, only 2 have been for discipline purposes when we were in our mid-20's. They were both requested for reasons long forgotten by my girlfriend, now wife. Both were given with a paddle which we still use on a fairly regular basis followed by some quality time with a leather belt (not used for foreplay!). She requested a spanking like my mother would have given me as discipline.

    Mom's discipline spankings were by a set formula and intensity was controlled by her choice of implement – hand, paddle, belt or switch. I warned her that mom's discipline spankings produced tears and left marks which lasted a few days but she stood firm with her requests – actually two parts, age = # of swats – age swats with the paddle first, followed by age lashes with the belt – all administered to her bare fanny for both of her discipline spankings. Sex followed both of her discipline spankings, so I guess that put us very briefly in the #6 group……….but we did not stay.

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