A Reader Responds To The Survey

What age were you when you got your first adult bare-bottom spanking?
First adult “semi-playful” was about 22. First adult “authentic” variety about 24.
Was it administered by an acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, wife or professional?
Never got the nerve to ask my girlfriends… finally confessed what I wanted to my wife.
Was it for punishment, fun or foreplay?
Fun and foreplay in her mind. In my mind it was for fun, foreplay and a spanko related interest in “fun-ishment”.
What was her response to it?
Not really her thing but enjoyed playing at times… mostly giving.
If your significant other WAS INITIALLY interested, has her interest grown with time or lessened?
Her interest has stayed about the same with occasional spikes, but mostly to please me.
Would you say your desire to be spanked has grown or lessened over the years?
My interest in bottoming has definitely grown, yet still a Switch at heart. Now seem to enjoy being spanked and thinking of being spanked, more than when I was young.
How often are you spanked as an adult now – approximately?
Not very often. It is inconsistent but on average once or twice a month using a broad definition of getting a “spanking”.
Are you ashamed or accepting of this desire?
Came to terms with my basic nature and desire for spanking in my 30’s; before that I struggled like most guys namely with the idea of what it meant to want to be spanked as a guy… but also what it meant to actually enjoy the idea of spanking a woman.
I prefer to be spanked with?
Hairbrush, strap, leather slipper, stingy paddle… not into thud.
What added attractions do you desire with your spankings?
Never an S&M or B/D fan, prefer domestic scenes but enjoy a variety of kinks related to traditional and a few non-traditional (but sane) means of tormenting a bare bottom, mine or a naughty gal’s.
Do you like to be spanked in roleplay, real life situations, or no situation?
More real life than roleplay but mostly it just needs to be personal. I like connection more than “correction”.
If you like roleplay do you like your spanker to be; mommy, aunt, teacher, boss, neighbor, friend’s mother, therapist, girlfriend, wife?
Any are fine but again prefer the real deal…. a therapist scene might be interesting?
What age do you like to play when being spanked?
My own.
For true offenses, made-up ones or NONE?
All the above if done right, though not much on true submission or dominance beyond sensual but low key domestic variety.
What stage do you like to be spanked to: pink, red, to tears?
Tears are not necessary… but I do prefer “sound” spankings that are progressive and result in a very red, very hot behind I’ll feel for a while.
How do you feel about marks?
Within reason, love to see them in the mirror afterwards. Nothing permanent… or breaking skin. Moderate marking that fades in a few days is fine.
While being spanked do you feel?
Strong sense of connection…slightly awestruck, appreciative and keenly aware of the person whose lap I’m over. Afterwards?… warm, fuzzy, turned-on.
While being spanked do you: get an erection, remain soft, leak fluid, orgasm?
Not during, occasionally after… depends on the circumstances. Spanko thoughts are better than Viagra though.
What kind of spanker’s dress do you prefer (prim, matronly, conservative, everyday casual, provocative, overtly sexual)
Favor the domestic style… especially the 50’s, 60’s style dress… and undergarments. Not into leather or dominatrix gear.
Have you been spanked in front of others?
Not yet.
What positions to be spanked in appeal to you the most?
OTK is fav… bent over a chair or sofa, Spanking Bench
Have you ever been spanked to tears?
Tears no… misty eye’d and hanging on by a thread? Yes…

9 thoughts on “A Reader Responds To The Survey”

  1. Thank you for sharing. It's not easy for men to reveal their desire to be spanked. It's a consensual, interpersonal exchange and has nothing to do with one's courage or selfworth.

    1. It is easier on here as Bogey likes being spanked and his wife approves. Most would think you are a pervert unless you are a woman. Women being spanked seems acceptable to most so we are in a minority. I think people think we are submissives and feminine. Some men may be like that but I and many others are not submissives or feminine. My wife knows that I take the lead. The fun we have in the bedroom is nothing to do with our general lifestyle.

  2. it took me years to convince my wife to spank me and not think I am a pervert. for the past 7-8 years, most of the spankings have been at my request to satisfy a need or want. some have been because I have done something bad and those are the most painful. most tho have been me asking for a strapping or paddling and I will present myself in a variety of positions and she will give me a hard strapping or paddling. She does it because she knows it is something I want. She however does not want to be spanked as it is not her thing.

    1. Same as me but I never get into it being a punishment. Something in me says don’t go down that route.

  3. I like to spank more the mature woman, whose age ranges from 30 to 50, I enjoy raising their dress, or skirt waist high, I love to take down their panties, knickers or bloomers, and I prefer to use a pliable stinging cane on their bare bottoms. I have often got a SEXUAL ERECTION while spanking them, and they helped me satisfy my sexual release. Yes, I have been into role playing, such as office, school, clergy, high society, restaurant scenes, etc spanking scenes. I have spanked women in public, when I used to go a 'spanking club'. NEVER was I an enthusiast either into S & M, or B & D.

  4. It’s nice to see a blog where spanking is only for eroticism and not punishment. My wife spanks me when I ask for it. I felt it unhealthy for me for her to do it as a punishment. You are fortunate that your wife understands spanking as she likes it too. My wife doesn’t like it on her. I just hope she understands how much pleasure she brings by doing it. It bothers me that you are not faithful in marriage and talk about spanking other women. That spoils it a lot for me. I wonder if you wife is agreeable to this.

    1. I don’t really understand your answer in that we are both guilty. Guilty of what? Liking spanking or being unfaithful? Yes to the first for me but no to the second.

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