Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice

This goes out for my friend Ronnie across the pond. Just trying to be helpful.


The following is from a 1950’s Home Economics textbook intended for High School girls, teaching how to prepare for married life.

Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal-on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.

Prepare the children Take a few minutes to wash the children’s faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.

Some DON’TS: Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax And unwind.

Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.

9 thoughts on “Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice”

  1. “Be a little gay” – um, no, that would not make my husband comfortable AT ALL. He would also wonder why I had slathered on makeup. I might try the ribbon in my hair, though.

    I always plan my menu in advance, so there's one point for me.


  2. Being gay and cheerful would make him uncomfortable. How so?

    It said touch up, not slather on makeup. Of course if you do not wear makeup, than I suppose it would be noticed. And that would be a bad thing??

    Where a ribbon is placed can change your look. Small, long, wide.

  3. LOL. If I did any of those things P would wonder what I was up to and probably spank me:) Mmmm might have to try one or two then:) Thanks for the mention.


  4. You are above my IQ. I can not get to acting lesbian from the context and time it was written. Being gay in the 1950's was being happy and cheerful. From West Side Story: Oh, so pretty, I feel pretty, and witty and gay…
    You should hear me belt that out in my bass voice.

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