What Happens at Spanking Parties?

Well other than spanking, there is a lot of talking and socializing. People seem to warm up to each other at spanking parties very quickly. We have been to dozens of parties, mostly the private types. The few open to the public parties we have attended were not to our liking.

I can still recall talking with women at the first parties we attended and learning that they had the exact same feelings about spanking that I had harbored since I was young. They wanted to be spanked as much as I wanted to spank them. They had gone to some extreme measures in their lives trying to get a spanking from a teacher, boy friend, etc. In short I was not weird. At least concerning spanking.

All the parties we have attended have focused on M/F spanking. F/M spanking have been atypical and usually known only to the participants. M/F spanking have tended to be private affairs, but there have often been public spankings, especially in connection with games and skits. Don’t ever think that women who like to be spanked are shy and modest, they have little apprehension about baring all in front of a crowd. Men, on the other hand, are quite modest.

I don’t mean to bash men, but most male bottoms we have met have been socially inept and difficult to engage in conversation.

I think this extends to Blogging. Consider the number of spanking Blogs written by women who like to be spanked compared to the number of spanking Blogs by men who like to be spanked. 50 to 1? I have exchanged emails, real names and photographs with several women Bloggers, while the count for men is exactly zero. Most men post comments anonymously, while women use a name. Why is that?

Her Turn

Giving others pleasure produces the maximum pleasure for ourselves. Don’t you think? We always try to make Christmas a happier time for kids that are not in fortunate circumstances. The smiles on their faces always make us feel good.

I get a comparable high when I can really turn Becall on. Not just sex, but something a little special, that I only attempt a few times a year, so it will always remain special. I did that a few days ago. I told her the night before what I was going to do. She likes that, she chews on it and gets herself revved up.

I told her that I was going to paddle her hard and she was going to have to take it. She was just going to have to cowgirl up, take her licks, not complain and stay in position. I call this a force fantasy. She wants it, but I am forcing her. I am telling her she has no control over it. I am binding her with words.

The next morning I told her again what I was going to do and added that I was going to take her from behind after I had her bottom red hot. I said that I wanted to feel the glowing heat from her ass when I entered her. And with that, I told her to bend over and started putting her paddle to her with some gusto. When her cheeks were rosy, I picked up the red paddle and told the next licks were going to really burn and she was not to move. She asked if she had to take the licks I said yes. She shuddered with delight and surrender. I made sure that the paddle cracked on her bottom. She stayed in position as if held there.

I put the paddle down where she could see it and told her that she might get more licks. I then told her to get on her hands and knees and put her bottom up high. I entered her. This is our fav position and we tend to go at fast and furious. If I get it right she comes about two strokes before I do. If her first words after climax come out a few octaves lower, I know I got it right. I got it right.

This is a reasonable representation of what Becall looked like when we married. No, this one is not her, it just reminds me of her bubble bottom. You have seen her bottom here before.


I continue to write about women spanking men [and vice versa] for mutual pleasure. No lessons to be learned, no behavior to atone for. We are adults and we treat each other with respect. Is there anyone else out there in such a situation? If so, write us or start a Blog. There must be other couples who enjoy spanking without punishment as a reason. FYI, anonymous comments leave no trace of who or where you are.

Two on One

Many males who like to bottom, are keen to be spanked by more than one woman at the same time. Perhaps it is a limb of the male fantasy of making it with twins? I have been spanked by two woman – several times. For most of the occasions, Becall was one of the women on deck. An interesting part of it to me, was that they instantly empower each other. What one does not think of the other will. Sisterhood is terrific!

There is something about a woman you do not know all that well, taking charge and unbuckling your belt like she does it everyday. Then pulling your pants and underwear down to your ankles and telling you to step out of them. I sure hope that all the women I have done this to, enjoyed it half as much as I have enjoyed having it done to me.

The two-on-one spankings I have gotten have always gone on a little longer than I prefer, but you have to allow for the simple fact that if one gives x licks, the other is going to want equal time. I learned not to leave many toys out on these occasions, else it can turn into a paddle party.

At one party, a woman I asked to play with us was game, but a tad reluctant. Later I saw her and Becall talking and they were both smiling and laughing. It was not long before Becall found me and let me know they were ready for me. I had spanked this woman before and so I felt we were on comfortable terms. After they had me pretty much nude, maybe a t-shirt, I said it was not fair that they had all their clothes on. No problem, they got down to bra and panties. This woman always wore the finest lingerie and this time was no exception. And Becall is certainly no slouch in that department. I was in heaven.

I don’t recall all of the details of the paddling, but it was fun for all of us.

When they deemed my bottom sufficiently red, the fun continued in another direction. The oil came out and the stroking began. They each wanted to demonstrate their own unique styles for bringing a man to orgasm. While one was pumping me, the other was fondling the boys or probing my prostate. I am always dimly aware that just before I come they are alert to see how far the ejaculate will go.

I freely admit that not all two-on-one sessions have gone well. The simple fact is that most men and women do not know how to spank. Skeptical? Far too many spanking films show spankers employing techniques that can be harmful and painful. Such as hitting too high and on the sides. If the “pros” don’t know, it’s little wonder that amateurs don’t know how to spank. So yes, I have stopped a few sessions when the woman refused to spank the meaty section of my bottom after being cautioned. Hitting just anywhere, shows they don’t really give a damn and are just going through the motions. They may get away with such with their husbands, but I don’t tolerate it.

One recent two-on-one session that did go well was with an old friend, who after a divorce moved half-way across the country from us. She has since remarried and seems to really be enjoying her life, perhaps for the first time in her life. We had switched in the past, but we did not expect to play during this brief visit. We had never met her husband and had no idea about his thoughts on such matters. “You want to get naked with my wife?” He does not switch, but he gave Becall a fine spanking and Becall and Becky certainly had some fun with me.

Spanked Hubby thinks a two-on-one spanking might help him be more submissive. Five-on-one would not get me submissive, but what-the-hey, I am willing to try it.


One On Two?

This is a fantasy I have never lived – one woman spanks both Becall and I. Perhaps a neighbor? She knows we like spanking and every so often she calls and tells us to “get ready” and she comes over and reddens our bottoms. Becall would do this, she is an equal opportunity spanker. Both males and females know what it feels like to have her wielding a paddle behind them.

The drawing illustrates what I have in mind, sans the tears. Recall that we only spank for fun. The skin may be red, but it is exactly like we want it.