I have written about adult spanking as punishment several times. In fact, one of the first posts was “Don’t Bring Mom Into This” in August of 2007. Perhaps this will be my final thoughts on the matter?
Almost certainly, the most popular F/M Blog is Spanked Hubby. He usually omits the reason for his frequent chastisements, but he declares that he deserves them and that he encourages his wife to spank him harder to facilitate his learning to behave. He also acknowledges that he frequently has an erection when he is punished, but an intense session momentarily softens his ardor. He confesses that making up, including sex, normally follows punishment.
I have suggested to him that he likes to be spanked and his convincing his wife about his need for punishment is little more than deception. He acts up to get spanked and then enjoys sex. I further suggested to him that if he really wanted punishment he should masturbate just before his spanking. Nothing cools out a man more than orgasm. So far he has silently rejected my suggestion.
My view of the futility of adult spanking as punishment
Women, having the ability for multiple orgasms, cannot be chilled out by masturbation before punishment. A woman must be repentant for a spanking to be of any effect. Some women, self-styled brats, act out to get spanked. They are never really remorseful. They enjoy acting like three year olds throwing a tantrum. They want to be spanked and they have worked a mechanism to make it happen. I wrote about this last November This is Punishment?
Male or female, in both cases we have adults acting out to elicit a punishment normally reserved for children which is followed by making up. They like to be spanked, but need the “cover” of punishment in order for it to be acceptable to them and to their mate.
Western culture is far more accepting of M/F spanking for inappropriate behavior than F/M spanking. Perhaps western culture values women for acting submissive, even if they are in fact dominate. This creates an imbalance in supply and demand. I think there are about as many men, as women, who are fond of being spanked. However, women who grew up acting submissive and seeking a dominate male to look after them find it takes a lot of mind twisting to reverse roles and spank a man. Most will not consider it. They feel it would take something from themselves.
My Bottom Smarts recently listed some new spanking Blogs. I looked at My Thoughts on Spanking & Discipline and learned how the how the “Formal Thank You” helps a HOH relationship. That’s right readers, she advocates a blow job, as a non-sexual act of course, as an appropriate way of expressing thanks after punishment.