The Trouble, if any, With Switching

I realize it is problematical to uncover a spanking partner that you connect with, no matter how you label yourself. Pure serendipity brought Becall and I together. I am not whining here, just reveling a fact that is new to me.

We have wondered why it has always been so difficult for us to find couples like us, couples who switch with each other. After posting to a few kinky hookup sites and getting zero responses, I am starting to appreciate how exceptional (or odd if you prefer) our capability really is.

Most submissives/bottoms just can’t tolerate the thought of their dominants/tops submitting to them, even “just in play”. They fear that it will create a lack of respect issue.

Most other switch couples, find others to switch with. In our view, this could lead to relationships issues.

Perhaps, we are able to switch with each other only because we do not have any ownership issues. No Master, HOH, Dominate labels.

10 thoughts on “The Trouble, if any, With Switching”

  1. I think you and Becall are in a relatively unique situation, and I hope (it sounds like you do) enjoy it to the fullest.My wife and I also switch. For us it’s all about turning eachother on. I can’t think of anything sexier than reddening her ass, and when she turns the tables, well, my excitement is unmistakable. For her, heat on her bottom gets her juices flowing. And the reaction she sees me have when she spanks me is enough to have her repeat it often enough.So, since it’s all about sex for us, I don’t think we’d ever be looking for couples to play with. But that’s us.Mikeaka_ireland

  2. Hi thereYou are fortunate indeed to have a total switching relationship.My wife will take a spanking evry now and again but she is not really into scene. However I am blessed that she recognises that it is my thing and so she will happliy spank and cane me on a weekly basis. She can also come up the most amazing stories concerning the usual spanking themes so I am frequently satisfied by a quickie with a tale.All in all I consider myself to be one of the fortunate ones.I think that people regard this activity as a little outside the norm. Hence your difficulty in findind matching couples. For me I would rather have my discipline in the home rather than run risk of a 4 some turning my wife off the whole subject.Keep it up.Michael

  3. Mike and Michael, It’s all about sex for us too and I think we are blessed to have each other. Still, if there was another couple we fit with, we would like get together with them. Just for spanking.It is nice to know there are two other couples that switch with each other.Michael, I am sure all of our readers would enjoy some of your DW stories. How about favoring us with some? You can send them to

  4. Perhaps you have greater versatility than most people and therefore can easily ‘switch’ between the giving and the receiving without a problem with getting into the required headspace.Ultimately we all do what we enjoy the most.HugsMina

  5. This is the first time I have read your blog. πŸ™‚ It seems as though you have been around for quite some time. If you don’t mind me asking… How old are you guys? Anyhow, I’m glad I found you. πŸ™‚Lily

  6. Well Lily, in some circles, it’s not polite to ask the age of people who you do not know. We feel it’s OK for “old” people to enjoy life including spanking and sex. We past 50 a few years back.

  7. I am so sorry if my question was rude, i truly did not mean it that way. I was just curious. Curiosity did always kill the cat… Darn me! πŸ™‚ Again, I am glad I have found you guys. Lily

  8. Lily, we did not take it as being really rude. I was mostly kidding you.We are glad you enjoy our Blog.We do wish more readers would post with blog bio that tells something about themselves.

  9. We are a 'switching' couple -and have never had any problems with that arrangement. He was the one who initiated me to spankings when we were in college, and I was the one who suggested switching after we were married. This has worked out fine for both of us: whoever gets the urge to spank -or to be spanked- immediately gets what he/she wishes! The fact that tables may be soon be turned is a moderating factor -at least, to some extent- but it doesn't detract from our mutual enjoyment.


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